Many have already commented on this, but I’d like to add a few points as well…points you probably already know.
Anything worthwhile takes effort and time to accomplish. And lots. We live in a world obsessed with speed and instant results, preferably with minimal effort. “Get hot, sexy abs in just 5 minutes a day with our AbCrusher2000
!” Literally today, I saw an add for a product to learn Spanish in three weeks. That’s ridiculous. I think we’re so used to reaching max level in video games, and the instant gratification in basically everything that the internet now gives us, that we’ve lost touch with what mastery truly means. But learning a language is not something we can just “microwave.”
When I started learning Japanese, it was a vague goal I had had for several years. When I finally began, it was the right time for me, but I couldn’t help but feel like, “Man, if I had only started this five years ago, I’d be good at it by now!” But that was the omg-five-years-feels-like-such-a-long-time me talking. I promised myself I would never again look back and wish I had just started something. Instead, I would look back in five years with a sense of accomplishment because I started the thing five years ago and stuck to it.
All of this is to say, for me, mentally/emotionally, it has been really helpful to just come to terms with the fact that this is a multi-year process. I can’t have Japanese right now. And I can’t have it ever, if I don’t put the hours into it - hours over the course of many days, weeks, months, and even years. The key, is not to love the result, it’s to love the process. Love learning Japanese more than you love the idea of knowing Japanese. Love the reviews. Love logging into WaniKani. Love learning new kanji and vocabulary and grammar. Love listening to podcasts and anime. Love reading. If you do, you’ll one day have reached your destination and look back, grateful that you started all this five years before, and having loved every step of the way. Trust the process.
Btw, my ideas on learning and particularly, mastery, have been heavily influenced by the book, Mastery, by George Leonard. I highly recommend it to anyone trying to truly master a skill, especially if you’ve failed in the past:
Best of luck in your journey!