How do your loved ones feel about you studying Japanese?

My sister is on and off studying it, she doesn’t really get so far though so whenever I speak Japanese to her she rolls her eyes.

My mom doesn’t care, in fact she wants me to stop ‘trying to be Japanese’. And if my father were still alive I’m sure he’d be proud of me because he always was, and he was very impressed when I studied french in high school. And the rest of my family laughs at me.

My friends either study Japanese with me, are Japanese, or don’t care.

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My brothers doesn’t really care much. I think my older brother thinks it’s nice that I pursue something I like though, but my little brother doesn’t care at all. He gets annoyed if I just mention anything related to Japan. It’s not as if he thinks it’s a bad thing that I study it either though.
My parents care a bit more, but not enough to ask a ton a question about my studies, though they ask about Japan. They also wants to help me financially if I need it when I study in Japan next year, and they think it’s great that I follow my goals.
My friends doesn’t care at all it seems, except my online Japanese friend. Though she’s a bit worried I study too much, heh. She also helps me sometimes, when I have questions regarding the language or culture. So she’s pretty hype about it.

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As far as family’s concerned, they find it impressive but uninteresting and probably question the purpose of it. Valid concerns, but at the end of the day it’s something I enjoy doing now; ain’t any harm in it.

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My ex is the one who bought my lifetime account, so I guess he thought it was a worthwhile endeavor. Other than that I think my mom and my brother & his husband know about it and I wouldn’t say any of them care all that much one way or another. I don’t really talk about WK outside of WK. This is what WK friends are for.

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My bf is pretty indifferent to it. He knows I like it. My mom has asked me what the point is and where I’d ever use it, but she is also indifferent. It was just a normal, understandable question. No one else really knows as I don’t talk to many people and don’t really have a reason to bring it up. My kids know, but they’re 4 & 5 and just repeat what I’m saying if they hear me pronouncing things out loud. If anyone I would tell had something negative to say, it wouldn’t change a single thing. Their opinion doesn’t matter! :slight_smile:

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Wife thinks its cool, although she has zero interest.
Rest of my family, don’t get it. Basically they just ask “why?”. And there’s no explaining it to them. They just see no point, total waste of time, etc. Get the questions of what I’ll get out of it? Will it help my job somehow? Just total confusion basically.

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My friends/partner mostly think it’s just interesting. My team at work have saved a space on our whiteboard for “Japanese sentence of the day” and get involved with testing me to learn new words and grammar points, so that’s kinda cool!

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That sounds a lot better than my coworker that asked if I was learning so that I could watch “that cartoon porn”

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Oh dear :pensive:

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I hope you said yes.

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I think I said something along the lines of “Of course. Can’t enjoy porn unless you understand the dialog. How else would I understand whats going on?”

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Excellent!

I think mine would have been something like “Of course! How can I thoroughly enjoy what I’m seeing if I’m constantly reading subtitles? Psh.”

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Should’ve said “I want to understand all the cunning linguists in those films”.

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Before I went to Japan for the first time, I was working in a kitchen and studying Japanese from some notes when the executive chef* asked what I was up to, found out I was going to Japan and uttered this classy line: “A right, that’s great, pal. Well, listen, if yur teachin’ dun’t work out, ah’ve got a mate workin’ oot in Chinky so ah’ll put ye in touch wi’ him, eh?” Which, to be honest, if I had to choose one or the other, would probably fall on the supportive side of things.

*Anyone who’s ever worked in a kitchen before will know immediately from that job title that the man was a cock.

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I get this kind of reaction all the time when I tell people that I study Japanese, or they realize the extent to which I’m actually studying. One of the most frustrating things people ask me is “What are you planning on doing with that?”

I’m not sure why I find it so frustrating… People would ask me this all the time about my college major (Geology) because they didn’t understand how rock science could be useful. And now people ask me this all the time about why I study Japanese. I guess I get a little defensive or I interpret the question as being a bit condescending.

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my friends and boyfriend are generally very accepting of it- hell, some of them are also studying it and my boyfriend is fluent!
my family on the other hand, don’t really seem to care much. they always ask me, “what’s it gonna be useful for?” and when i tell them, they always say it’s useless. my mom also offers to buy me things a lot, but when i say i want to buy something related to my japanese studies, she gets mad at me…

Family is pretty supportive about it. Father thinks it is cool and wants me to become fluent so it will help my career. Mom is sad about me moving this year to teach, but she is supportive of me learning.

Girlfriend is Japanese. Even though her English is by far better than my Japanese, we mostly talk in Japanese so I can get better. So she is very supportive.

Friends are very supportive people too. I generally choose to have really positive people in my life, so they don’t try to drag me down.

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My family stopped speaking to me after I told them that I wanted to learn Japanese. :frowning:

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My family is mixed (I’m Italian and Native, two of my cousins are Italian and Jamaican, three are French and Italian, and one is Irish and Italian) so everyone speaks at least two languages (usually English and Italian), but a lot speak three or more, so I find that no one in my family questions language learning. They would be more likely to ask why you aren’t studying a language. They also don’t care which language it is because I think in my family we all understand that learning any language is good exercise for your brain and that every language and culture is beautiful.

I go to a bilingual school too, so all my friends speak at least two languages, but most speak three because their parents don’t speak English or French. And of those people most are interested in learning even more languages. I have a lot of friends who want to learn Korean.

So yeah over all I think I’m in a pretty supportive environment.

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