Frustrated in 20s and slowing down Wanikani to focus on reading

I’m not as far through Wanikani but in a similar situation life-wise - 40, job, married, two small children, passed N5 a couple of years ago, working on N4 grammar. My plan is to just keep going steadily at Wanikani and Japanese in general. The Team Snails on Vacation thread is a nice place to hang out if you want some encouragement taking it steady.