personal thoughts about it
It’s hard to separate this series from the context in which I first encountered it – my sister pulled it off of her shelf and recommended it to me the summer she came out as trans, the summer I was staying with her and interning at the company she would be fired from by the time I left. It was a chaotic summer. Wandering Son’s role in it was, albeit in nice Fantagraphics hardcover format, more or less a blip – a “I hope these cute trans kids get to be happy” and an “oh cool, there’s manga about that!” before getting lost in the static because we didn’t really have the bandwidth to keep up with a long meandering coming of age story, that requires you to slow down and really keep track of all the characters, even if all the volumes had made it over here.
Now, years later, everything about that context is completely different for me. My day-to-day is luckily chaos-free. My own gender situation, while not actually any more nailed down than it was then, is a lot less fraught because I live alone and can basically do whatever I want. I’ve fallen regrettably out of touch with my sister. And most unexpectedly, I can read Japanese.
I’m lapsing into wistful self-reflection because the series ends with wistful self-reflection, but my takeaway from those two experiences with the series is that it’s an awfully good, realistically messy and methodical story about individual kids growing up and exploring gender along the way. Which is a great thing! It was really fun to get to know these characters, and spending a lot of time with them felt like, say, reading a long-running newspaper strip over the years and seeing how the characters age and eventually saying goodbye. Always a meaningful and emotional experience, and Shimura’s great at drawing out that wistfulness and that rhythm and little moments of life pretty much constantly throughout.
But coming at it in terms of that hunger for representation and looking to this cute manga as a potential comforting balm in the midst of gender confusion in real life… I think there’s something vaguely frustrating about it. Like I guess it’s that there aren’t a lot of moments of out-and-out joy or catharsis? It’s pretty much emotionally fraught situation after emotionally fraught situation and all of them have a mixture of pleasure and awkwardness and shame in them and like……… That is true to adolescence and gender in my experience!!! BUT maybe too true, since it can get kind of exhausting. It’s easy to get wrapped up in these characters and want the best for them (and even better if “the best for them” happens to mean the specific gender solution you’ve settled on yourself, right?), and so I found it consequently easy to get kind of worn out by none of them ever having any easy wins. I’m very glad for the very very last moment that I think is the closest to that “home run, hell yeah, we figured out gender!” moment the series makes me so hungry for throughout, if only because the book ends there before life can get awkward again. There’s enough small victories that it’s not miserable by any means, but still…
A good, less directly gendery example of what I mean is the relationship between the Nitori siblings. Their constant bickering while also worrying about each other is super evocative and realistic to me of a real sibling relationship, so I can’t really fault it! … But I sure wouldn’t have minded a big sappy moment or two in there where their love for each other shines through. There’s kind of some in there, but the ratio of that to “Maho comes into the shared room at an awkward time and yells at Shuu” is waaaaaaaay lop-sided towards the latter.
I think honestly the biggest thing that keeps it from working in that way is that no community ever really develops. You’ve got all these questioning kids and a handful of role models, but anytime a group of even 2 or 3 starts to develop some fraught adolescence business breaks it up or puts it on hold, so you never really get to see the equivalent of like, the house in しまなみ誰そ彼 or the cafe in 不可解なぼくのすべてを, so there’s never quite a sense of enough of a supportive bulwark to feel at ease. You’re sort of left the impression that life and gender are a giant mess to navigate, but luckily you might meet people who understand you enough to help, it’s just that navigating your relationships with them will itself be a total mess…
Which, I mean, is true!!
And so that’s my personal take – I think the series is great, but great specifically if you want this kind of coming of age story that realistically mirrors the pace and complexities and individualities of life. I think as a story specifically about transness or general gender questioning, especially a load-bearing one (i.e. if you don’t know about other options and are questioning yourself), I think it’s still good but maybe more flawed than from the other perspective.
Other thoughts:
I remember seeing once a comment from somebody expressing surprise that Americans watch so much school anime, because they can’t possibly understand the connotations of the many touchstones that inform those stories since the school systems are so different. I see where that comment was coming from (and hey, this series is a good way to get familiar with a ton of those touchstones as it goes along), but honestly, at the end of the day… I can relate to anxieties around doing a mandatory group performance in school, even if when I did it it wasn’t for a culture festival, you know? The many all-too familiar ways growing up is confusing and miserable makes up for the unfamiliar specifics, I think! The one area that I really did find jarring compared to my own experience, is just the kids walking everywhere. When I was in school I always lived either in the middle of nowhere, in the middle of suburban sprawl and uncrossable highways, or an hour and a half away from school. If you were going to fictionalize my school life in this style you’d have to set at least a third of the scenes on a bus. I got pretty jealous of how lackadaisically the characters just… walk over to friends’ houses, easy as that.
Last note isn’t directly about the series, but about my backlog system – it involves groups of 5 (that I randomize the order of and treat like individual queues I pick from), and this actually finishes off one of those groups, centered around LGBT manga. Since anyone reading this is presumably interested in the subject, I’ll talk briefly about the whole. The group was: 弟の夫, 女どうしで子どもを産むことにしました, ストップ!! ひばりくん!, 不可解なぼくのすべてを, and of course 放浪息子.
I’d recommend any of these!
弟の夫 is the sweetest of the bunch, and a very pleasant read, 女どうしで子どもを産むことにしました is an non-fiction essay about a lesbian couple navigating the process of having a child, which is interesting and provides some good vocabulary but is otherwise dry compared to the rest of these, 不可解なぼくのすべてをpresumably you know from the book club… and then honestly? I think ストップ!! ひばりくん! was maybe my favorite of the bunch. It’s the most, um, 80s, with some very heavily dated sensibilities, but it’s basically a comic about trans girl who’s great at everything and even though everyone else in the comic is from the 1980s and comically disapproves there’s nothing anyone can do about it because, again, she’s great at everything she does so she does her thing through sheer force of will, in the midst of a Akira Toriyamaish madcap comedy. It’s kind of the opposite effect of what I was talking about with 放浪息子 in a way – instead of realistic and well-meaning, it’s nonsensical and crass but somehow ends up feeling kind of affirming anyway.
The next manga thing I drew is 14歳 by 楳図かずお and hoo boy I’m looking forward to it.
I have absolutely no idea what it’s about except that it involves a chicken man (??), I just saw it mentioned once and it looked absolutely buck wild and weird, and I already like Umezz so I knew I had to get it immediately. It could be great, it could be completely awful, I’m just ready for the rollercoaster!
That said - I was reading Drifting Classroom in English and didn’t quite finish, so I might decide to read the remaining volumes in Japanese first just to make sure I don’t have any Umezz loose ends. If I do that, I guess I’ll be sticking with school-age kids navigating awkward social situations and society’s troubles… just in a slightly different kind of way!